Thursday, December 8, 2011

Life with infertility

To catch you up, we've been married five and a half years and have yet to get the double lines on a pregnancy test that tell us we are indeed pregnant.  I was the girl who was engaged at 21 married at 22 and was ready for kids as soon as they came.  Obviously something has gone wrong at 28 when we still have no children (wow, that is SO hard to write).  We have yet to pinpoint exactly where something has gone wrong but obviously it is there.
Life though has been great without kids, we were able to travel to Hawaii this year and do whatever we pleased without having to worry about when kids needed naps while my brother-in-law (who was getting married there) complained about his sweet boy's nap schedule. I am also able to talk a big trip with my mom to China later this year without any second thoughts about it.  I have also been able to keep a super light work schedule because we don't exactly need the funds.  It has been sad though watching friends get pregnant and celebrating new lives with them while we are missing out on something so important to both of us. While this all sound so negative I am surprisingly hopeful, I feel peace that it will happen someday....

4 comments:

mrsb0909 said...

I'm sorry that you have to go through this struggle that so many face. So many good people would make wonderful parents and I'm sure that you both fit into that category.

Prayers to you.

Annie said...

Hugs to you and may you find peace however that may come to you.

Lil Miss Red T-Shirt said...

Sorry. :(

Maybe it'll happen for you one day soon. A few people I know are just finalizing their adoptions... one from Taiwan, another from Guatamala. They had similar troubles... but couldn't be happier now. I knew another lady who had years of IVF (?) treatments that finally succeeded. I also have come across several couples who didn't have kids and enjoyed all the options no kids can have.

I'm not sure what to say in response, other that... sorry you're going through this and you're not alone in it. :)

Newlywed Next Door said...

I'm sorry that you're going through this. It's not easy. And I'm sure not having answers doesn't help.

We've been on a long(ish) journey to become parents and it sucks.

Prayers are with you! Hang in there.